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Friday, March 07, 2014

Focus



Thoughts become things. What you think manifests. It all starts with  a thought. This is the Law of Attraction.

But why didn't some of your thoughts come true?

To be more exact, only strong thoughts that you truly believe in can manifest. Everyday we have thousands of thoughts in our mind every minute competing to manifest . So only the strongest manifest. The weak ones fade away.

However, your thoughts can only be strong if you believe in them.

For instance, if you shout aloud every morning that you are a billionaire hoping that you will become one on mere affirmation, you  are unlikely to succeed. Fact is that you know how much you have in your bank account. In fact, effectively you are telling yourself, "Who are you kidding?..." So, instead of a positive affirmation to move towards your goal, you have helped yourself moved away from your goal unwittingly.

A more workable affirmation can be something like, "Ï have more than enough money to spend everyday!" This will work whether you have a million dollars left in the bank at the end of each day or just a few dollars. It is something you can believe wholeheartedly without feeling like a rotten liar. Particularly if you had realised that you are persistently lying to yourself.

Once you believe in your thoughts, you will have to be able to focus on your thoughts. Focus will add energy to your thoughts so that they will become forms. Monkey minds that jump around from one frivolous thought to another will not succeed. Focus is probably the hardest part.

Meditation increases focus and cuts out clutter. There are different meditation techniques available. Try out several techniques and choose one most suitable for yourself.  For instance, if you are physically hyperactive, you may like to try walking meditation. If you are musically inclined, listen to classical music but follow the sound of one instrument. If you are sensitive to vibrations, try chakra meditation. Some techniques focus on the photo of a guru, some the tip of a candle flame,...etc. Whichever method, they all teach you to focus.

I learned a technique recently that focuses on a humble black dot on a white surface. I find it more effective than using the other objects, as it is something so simple and mundane that it is easy to move your eye away if you are not focusing

A black dot is more mundane than the beautiful tip of a candle flame and more neutral than the face of a guru. There is nothing interesting about the black dot other than using it as a focusing exercise. Using a beautiful or profound object on the other hand distracts you, but fool you into believing that you are focusing well.

Practise focusing. For unless you can focus, you cannot have strong thoughts and therefore they will not manifest. Instead, other thoughts that are relatively stronger will manifest. And they can be any other lingering thoughts that you are not aware of.

The dangerous part is that we are mostly unaware of what  we are thinking of, until it is too late. In other words, it is difficult to track the mind with the mind itself. So harbour healthy thoughts. Allow yourself to react to situations and even be angry about them, as being positive does not mean that you should become blind to negative things around you. Observe, but not judge.  But after allowing yourself the spontaneous emotions, tell yourself not to allow those unwanted  thoughts to fester.

Set yourself some thought checkpoints and motivations. Tell yourself that you don't want to have ugly thoughts because it will give you an ugly face. Ultimately, it feels better to be positive than negative and it is easier to love than to hate. Positive thoughts energise. Negative thoughts wear you out. When you are tired, you also run the risk of poor judgment and slipping down the slippery slope into  calamities. So have enough rest and sleep too. They are essential ingredients to success.

I find acting and role playing an effective method for self realisation. As it allows me to go through the emotions and results of a scene sincerely.

If acting is  too hard, you may like use the state of your bedroom or house as a measurement of how clear or cluttered your mind is, as what is outside is inside, and vice versa. Clear the clutter outside and the inside too clears. This is an easy checkpoint.

Some people go into hypnosis to understand their subconscious thoughts. I simply record my dreams when I wake up in a diary. I find it very useful to check my thoughts and to  make the necessary corrections.

Minimise the use of technology where possible, particularly the use of smartphones. They are one major cause of monkey minds in today's world.

All the people that I have met that are successful are those who are able to focus on their thoughts that they truly believe in. None of them have monkey minds.

So why are gurus only teaching you the Law of Attraction skin deep? I suspect that they may not know some of the finer points which I have discovered the painful and hard way. Most gurus are money motivated. They are mostly selling generalised motherhood statements. Some boast of very successful students out of their large cohorts. By the law of big numbers, if you put enough people there, some will come out successful accidentally.

What we want is a method that works consistently. I have discovered that it is mostly to do with the ability to focus. If you can focus well, everything will fall in place smoothly. If they are not falling in place smoothly, that means that you are not focusing well enough.

IMPORTANT: Do not confuse being 'focused' with being 'stubborn and attached'. They are mutually exclusive.

NOTE: I am not trying to sell you any motivation seminars or magic crystals, but just sharing something I have discovered recently and have found them to yield the results I want. In fact,  you are likely to  have already known of what I have shared, except that may be you have not put them together clear enough such that your mental gears engage.



Friday, February 26, 2010

The Power of Numbers 2



I have been doing a lot of character-and-behaviour Life Path readings using dates of birth and the Power of Numbers - probably a thousand of them.
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The One-Man-Band
The above is Mr John Smith's (not his real name) Life Path Diagram. I highlight John's Life Path here because he has an unusual repeat of numbers. His Numbers show that he is so independent that he can and prefers to run his business alone. This may sound 'good', but truly, the universe really does not judge what is 'good' or 'bad'. Numbers merely speak what they are, and as they are, and the judgment is only and purely human. However, being a one-man-band business also mean that he is unable to scale up his business and is more likely than not working himself to a detrimental health. So, that is not very 'good' at all, going by the human judgment.
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Balance
John is also not a very balanced person, as he lacks in the ability to: act fast, garner support and be resilient against stress. It is said that to cultivate Tao, a man needs to learn to be balanced in all aspects. That is, a balanced man is the success beyond all of business or material successes put together.
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Compatibility
Separately, a common question I get is one pertaining to 'partner compatiblity'. Many clients are highly anxious to know if their boyfriend or girlfriend is compatible with them and if they are spouse material. Just for the record, many couples I have read are not compatible. Even the married ones are not compatible (by the measure of the Power of Numbers). Consequently, many of them are also unhappy in their marriages.
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So how did they end up married? How could they be sufficiently 'attracted' to one another to tie the knot? These are hard questions to answer fully, but let's see if we can get some hints.
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Firstly, does 'compatibility' mean that if two persons are married, their relationship will be trouble free and that they will live happily ever after? Given that we most people are living in a harsh and hurried manner in urban settings and by the Law of Average, a dispute-free marriage is highly unlikely.
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From the cases I have seen, compatible couples have a lot in common in their Life Path. That means they have similar thinking patterns, interests and habits. Perhaps, this is the reason they find each other by the Law of Attraction - that which pulls them together, or pulls them back together after every squabble. When two persons are highly similar, their chances of staying together are much higher as it will be easier to exercise empathy given that they think alike. That is, empathy is easier if one has experienced the same or similar thought patterns before. Given that and for every other thing being equal, a compatible couple then has a higher chance of staying married.
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For couples that are incompatible, I find it easier to use the Life Paths to show where and what they are incompatible in. It is a more organised, structured and visible way of bringing awareness of their incompatibilities. Once the couple is made aware of their specific issues, they can then work consciously towards understanding the other party better and close the gaps. Since nothing is fixed or permanent, awareness itself is halfway through the victory of taking charge of our one's own destiny.
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Lastly, "How did these incompatible couples end up married?" Much of the answer could be found in the word, "curiosity". Incompatible couples do not have much in common, hence they were initially very curious about each other. So much of the other party's character traits were then new to them and were seemingly interesting in the beginning. This is the light hearted floating feeling one experiences, and one often mistaken as a feeling of 'being in love'. However, once such curiosities are satisfied, the light floating feeling fades, and the mundane starts. Perhaps that's why 'love at first sight' often do not last very long, if at all.
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For other blog posts on the Power of Numbers, click here.
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ANNOUNCEMENT
For those who want to meet me for a reading or a chat, I'll be at the fair near Central Mall in Singapore on:
Date: 6 March 2010 (Saturday)
Time: 4pm to 11pm
Place: Along the banks of Singapore River outside Central Mall.
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There will be a fee charged. I have a manager now and she says that it is only fair to have an exchange. I think so too. However, there'll be a 'promotion price' if you have a reading at the fair.
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Monday, August 11, 2008

...till death do us part - Part 2

I have not heard about her since I visited her place some twenty years ago in her village. My friend knows her son. Then, she seemed a happy woman and her husband at that time was a teacher in the local school.
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Now, I heard she has remarried six years ago after divorcing her husband who has turned alcoholic. She found her present husband through the Internet and she re-married around the age of 60. What is more surprising is that her present husband used to be married to an alcoholic wife who eventually died of overdose.
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Just as I was about to think that it is the Law of Attraction at work, she told me that she believes in the law and encouraged me to watch "The Secret" DVD.
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In a way, I am happy that both of them got out of the rut of their previous marriages which were troubled by alcholic spouses.
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Incidentally, I have a friend whose wife have left him because he was an alcoholic. He haven't touched a drop of alcohol since the divorce. He said he drank to cover his depression. Alcoholism is a cover for manic depressive people. Such people may not even know they are drinking for that reason. They are trapped in their unhappy state.
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My friend, who has now recovered, would like to set up such a charitable foundation to help this group of people. According to his doctor, one in four persons are clinically depressed, but few people will ever notice it and many callously regard such depressive people as "bad characters".
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Thursday, July 10, 2008

The Secret Behind "The Secret" 2

I watched "The Secret" DVD again two nights ago (my fourth time) and noticed one of the commentators called "Esther Hicks from Abraham". Then last night, I stumbled upon her clips on Youtube. Apparently, she channels a group of masters who use her body to communicate with her students. I found her (or the masters') messages enlightening and they have helped me to clarify where I have not performed well enough recently.
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Listen intently to that certain depth in her voice during her channeling, it is very different from when she is not.
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What I have learned:
  • FEEL GOOD: That I must do things that I feel good, for that is the only way that will bring me joy and therefore what I really really want. I tune myself to the 'downstream vibration'. My emotions is an indicator of my vibration. Therefore I would pay attention to what I am feeling. For instance, I feel better when I praise than when I criticize. Yet I do the latter sometimes. Why?
  • FEEL MAD: However, I am glad even when I am feeling mad, because it is a just reminder to me that I must get back into alignment. So I embrace even my negative emotions. It shows that my guidance system is working.
  • FEEL HAPPY: I need to be 'this happy' to achieve 'this', not 'I need this amount of time' to achieve 'this'. I feel good before I get 'there', not only when I am 'there'. I may need more time to be 'this happy' to get 'there', but this is because I choose to subconsciously.
  • FEEL IN LOVE: When I am in love with somebody, it means that that person is coming into my life to help me get into alignment with the downstream vibration. That is why I am feeling so good about that person.
  • CLARITY: Clarity is my natural state of being.

Once we understand that we have to put our minds into what we really want, we will get what we want and we have to watch our emotions constantly as they are indications of our vibrations. Life is not a frenzy.

You may find other points that are pertinent to your own development.
Below are some of her clips.There are many other of her clips available on Youtube - take your own pick.
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You may also like to read my earlier post on The Secret Behind The Secret
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