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Tuesday, December 19, 2006

The Secret Behind "The Secret"

Got this email from my friend Joo Hock about how Enrique applies the lessons learned from the famous DVD "The Secret".

Joo Hock is the Bucky Group leader. The Bucky Group meets every Sunday at MacRitchie. Enrique Tsou is a trainer and also one who joins the Bucky Group whenever he is in Singapore, just like I do.

I am much enlightened by Enrique's email. I hope you find something useful in it too!

Malaysia 7 December 2006

Dear Joo Hock,

Glad to see how the Bucky Group is getting very interested with Bob Proctor’s DVD “The Secret”.

I’m glad that now this “secret” has caught all the Bucky member’s attention, even though Clinton and I shared it with you all during our 1st Science of Getting Rich seminar in AIA premises on Sept 2001. I really hope that during your Saturday’s discussions you can get into the applications of the Universal Laws or Generalized Principles as called by Bucky, in all your daily activities specifically the applications of the Law of Attraction and the Law of Vibration mentioned in the “Secret”.

When Clinton and I went to Las Vegas more than 6 years ago to receive training from Bob Proctor, we bring back the “Secret”. Those days Bob called it the “Laws of the Universe” and he used it to explain the secret of Wattles D. Wallace Science of Getting Rich book.

My life transformation started when I was looking for a deeper understanding of the Universal Laws so I can apply it myself and explain it to all my participants in a clearer and easier way during my trainings. The side effect of this study is a significant change of my life. It moved me to find the ways to “communicate” with the Universe, which help me to discover and develop further my Spiritual Quotient, which I called SQ.

While I was walking on the SQ path, I found out the answer of what my life purpose is, I also discovered what is my true passion in life and gave me the courage to live this passion in the way I’m living it today. The process of discovering the answers to all these life long questions has become the key ingredients in all my training programs. This gained experience has helped me shift the content of my programs to a different and more complete level. Today the SQ knowledge together with my IQ, EQ and KQ (Knowladge Quotient), has given me Bucky’s tri-dimensional Tetrahedron structure, the strongest structure in the Universe.

I’ve been receiving all your emails about the “Secret”, and since I am not able to attend the coming Saturday’s Hairfair gatherings until I come back from Kuala Lumpur, perhaps you will find useful some of my personal experiences dealing with the Secret while you are having your weekly group discussion on the subject.

The “Secret” DVD, even though has revealed what actually the secret is, is still a secret because has not revealed the “how to apply it” effectively. As a matter of fact, sure few of you have tried to follow the ways explained in the DVD to get some “stuffs” using the Laws of Attraction, but did you get it? Chances are not. The secret of the “Secret” lies in the way we communicate with the Universe, not on how we understand our universe works. Is the “I Know” syndrome against the “I have done it” syndrome, or what I called “the how to do” way.

Most people in the world despite not knowing anything about the theory behind of this “secret”, many have managed to get all what they want, why? Because it does not matter what you call the Secret: Law of Attraction, Visualization, Goal Setting, Affirmations, etc. What matter is the way we communicate with the Universe to “request” what we want that matter. I have discovered that this request is done through applying our feelings in the direction of what we want.

Everyone knows that feelings are something we need to experience it personally, cannot be explained, and cannot be understood, the only way is to fell it personally. How you explain a little boy what is “fall in love” when he has never “fall in love before”? Because feelings are a kind of “tri-dimensional language”, and no matter how we try to explain it using our limited bi-dimensional language, will never be accurate. Another example of feelings that all we can relate is the feeling of “fear”; all of us has experienced it and it means different things to each of us.

Most people study the Universal Laws one by one thinking each Law are individual Laws that are not much related with each other. In reality, all the Universal Laws are all closely interrelated.

When we look carefully how Nature (or Universe) works, we can notice that there is not a single physical “stuff” governed only by the single rules of the science of Math or Chemistry or Physics. All physical “stuffs” are governed by the science of Math and Chemistry and Physics working all simultaneously. We may be able to separate them in our labs and books, but in reality, as the Universal Laws, they are all interrelated.

The essence of the “Secrets” is to learn “how to” apply all the Laws simultaneously correct; When one Law is not align with the rest of the Laws, we will not get what we desired. Most people think that to attract what they want they only need to work on the Law of Attraction forgetting the interrelationship of the other Laws… You may want something, but if your feelings are not aligned with what you want, the Universe will deliver what you feel not what you want.

Because of the interdependence of the Laws it makes the study of the “Secret” more complicated but also more interesting. This is the main reason why many people fail in applying effectively these laws, despite they have a clears understanding on how each law works.

One of the many “secrets” to apply effectively the Laws in our advantage is having “clarity” as I shared with the Bucky group during the Sentosa workshop. It is not the “what to do or what Laws to apply”, but the “How to apply them simultaneously”. Learn to detect our true feelings and develop them is the way to work all the Laws simultaneously.

Most people when they apply the Universal Laws in their daily life, specifically the Laws of Attraction, they do it by only focusing in visualizing or use affirmations or setting goals and use will power to attain them, or writing notes to the Universe and place them in a secret compartment; these are the typical “what to do” way. When people apply these techniques without modifying 1st their “blueprints” the result is much harder to get and less effective.

Is only when we recognize that our Blueprint is the responsible of “repelling” or “attracting” all what we want, then we are ready to embark in changing part or our entire “Blueprint”. The “Blueprint” is the one who has created the life we have today; it is fully responsible to attract/repel all we have and we don’t have today, without exception.

We can control for a short period of time the way we want to feel – which is when we visualize or use affirmations, but when we are in automatic mode into our daily activities, is our “Blueprint” who makes us feel the way we feel most of the time. This long term feelings has more attraction power than few moments of specific feelings; and this is why we cannot attract what we want, but what we are. Until what we are is the same of what we want, then we will attract all what we want.

The question is how to see our “Blue Print”? We can see it by looking at how is our life now, the friends surround us, and the results we have now. This is why after attending the “Money & You” seminar, some of us has shifted our awareness and moved away form those “old friends” we use to mingle around and carry the same old conversation as before; we shifted our consciousness to a different level, which makes us to attract different group of people. In my case, that is how I was attracted to the Bucky group. In M&Y argot, we call this phenomenon perturbation. Our surroundings are all mirrors that reflect our invisible “blueprints”. In order to see those reflections we need “clarity” and courage to accept what we see, otherwise our ego will take over and distort on what is in front of us.

Getting to know our “Blueprint” is a concept that is not easy to grasp, this is because being a feeling is a tri-dimensional concept that fail to be explained accurately using our a bi-dimensional language tool. That is why using games as learning tools during seminars are so powerful, provided after the game the trainer/facilitator provide a profound debriefing using the feelings as learning tool. I’ve seen so many cases where participants are transformed after a powerful debriefing of a simple game played.

The way I managed to develop good clarity in my thinking is through the development of my SQ.

This concept of Blue Print is powerful; I’ve seen radical changes after few weeks when some of my participants changed their blueprint. Once they “sees” their Blueprint, they suddenly understand why their life is where is now. They managed to connect with the fact that until they change the part of their Blueprint that hold them to move forward, no matter how hard they visualize or use will power to attain what they want, they will keep getting the same result over and over. The learning for them is instead to visualizing what they want; they visualize in changing the part of their blueprint that hinder them. This allows them to attract what they want. This is how the Law of Cause & effect works: focusing on the right cause and the effect will come by itself.

Because what is flying beneath the radar (what we feel most of the time: fear, anxiety, uncertainty, stress etc), is much more powerful that what flies above the radar (what we say we want- a short feeling duration). So by working over the right feelings, we have the right attractions. The concept of “What is Flying beneath the Radar” was taken from the book “The 11th Element” from Robert Scheinfeld.

One way to understand the Blueprint concept is relating it to Bucky’s concept of “Be-ingness”. I have discovered that in our “Be-ingness” is where it rests our passion and life purpose. So one way to access our true Be-ingness/blueprint is through living our passion and life purpose.

Discovering the passion is not a big problem, I as many others has managed to get it. The challenge is what we do next after we discover what our passion/life purpose is. Most people do not have the courage to do the next move: live their passion as their way of life. The majority lives it as one of their many hobbies. I have also discovered when we live our passion as the way of living our life, we will be able to develop our full potential and on the way, we will discover our true-life purpose. I call it true-life purpose because it is not the purpose other tells us it is, it is the purpose we discover ourselves as we live our passion. When most people when they wish to live their passion as their way of living, because of fear in venturing to the unknown and to an unpredictable future; they decide to live their passion only half way. By doing so, they are just keeping that “wish” as a suppressed feeling. As times move on in their life, there will be a moment when regret takes place, and the question of: what could happen if I had followed my passion…

I still remember one of the Saturday’s sessions in Hairfair, when Erick was as usual seating over the left end corner of the salon, he mentioned that once we are walking our life purpose, everything that we do would be very smooth. My experience tells me that is true. The way I can explain it is because by living our life purpose, we are in line with our true Be-ingness, this Be-ingness will attracts all that we need in order to fulfill our life purpose. More we live our life purpose, smoother our life will be.

Maybe few will disagree with me in this way of thinking. Many have decided what their life purpose is and they decided they way they want to run their life purpose, which is not necessary the way the Universe wants it. Is the way our ego wants it. Hence, we face all the objection the Universe can put on the way, and our life get lots of obstacles, until we hit what in M&Y calls THE MACK TRUCK, and our life face a complete halt, which make us to contemplate what the Universe wants from us, rather what we want.

When we look fearless into our Be-ingness/Blueprint, we will learn how to “contemplate” what is happening around us. For me contemplation is looking inwards of us, searching for the answers that lay deep in us.

As a basic requirements for us to get answers, we must 1st ask questions; is clear that no questions, no answers. However many confuse “contemplation” with the activity of “meditation”, or become a hermit, or spend weeks in isolation. During our Sentosa’s “3 in one session” I shared the concept of “the unseen 99%” using Bucky’s definition of human being. Bucky managed to get this and so many other truths by contemplating what is happening around him and inside him. By contemplating inside him Bucky accessed to his BE-ingness, and this is why I believe he was able to “see the invisible 99% surrounding us” and connect the Generalize Principle with our daily activity - his Law of Precession Effect is a clear case of the results of this contemplation. Why most of us are not able to see what he managed to see? Because most of us are more into the “Do-ingness” than into the “Be-ingness”, thus we can only see the “visible 1%”. I don’t know you, but in my case I discovered when I do too much without the proper “Be-ingness” supporting it behind. What I am actually was doing is hindering the help that the Universe was trying to provide me; and I enter into the phenomenon of “more I do, less I get”, at the end the only thing I got is getting very tired and arriving no where near of where I wanted to go. However, the other extreme is also useless; we must keep a balance in not fall into the syndrome of “too much analysis become paralysis”. Again, for me this balance is just a feeling, it cannot be explained with words when I am in a balanced state and when I am not.

By the way, “contemplation” was exactly what Bucky did when he wanted to committed ego-suicide. He kept himself in silent mode for 3 years. During that period, he embarked in an inner journey while living a normal mundane life, and found out a “clarity” which helped him to discover incredible principles, invent wonderful things and write those profound books. He also found his life purpose, because he understood what his BE-ingness is, it can be seen by the way he lived his purposeful life. By practicing contemplation, Bucky was connected with the Universe. And by contemplating, he could decided the exact moment to leave peacefully this planet earth: after he accomplished all what he came to do here … His contemplation about life is what has inspired me to look for my own life purpose, after I found it has changed my life from making a living to LIVE life to the fullest!

Once we start applying the “Secret” in our daily life activities, we will sure notice changes in the way we live life, because we will “attract unconsciously” all things we need in an effortless way to fulfill our life purpose. The Laws of Attraction is directly related to our Be-ingness, which is related to our Blue Print, which is related to our Life Passion, which is related to our Life Purpose.

If after applying the Universal Laws purposely, our life has not moved to a different level, it is very possible that we are still on the plane of “paralysis because of too much analysis”. In simple words, we are still in the “I Know Syndrome”. We have not developed the right feelings that only can be acquired by DOING it. But if after we applied the Laws, our life become more complicated because we keep “attracting the wrong things and/or persons”, there is an attraction force that is “flaying beneath the radar”. We need to contemplate and correct the source feeling in our Blueprint that has made the so call “wrong” attraction. Attracting the wrong “stuff” is still the Law of Attracting in motion…

All these had happened in my life because 6 years ago I had the curiosity to know more about the Universal Laws….Living following the Universal Laws change lives, it has change mine and I hope it also will change your life.

In the mean time, I believe Colin, Siew Kiang and Clinton will be able to contribute their own experiences to the discussion of the Secret, since they recently have gain valuable experience during my program in Kuala Lumpur.

A big hug to all Bucky members, and looking forward to see you before the end of 2006,

Enrique Tsou


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Anirudh Kumar Satsangi said...

The psychology has always been in a continuous pursuit of finding the best tool to predict the qualities of an individual. IQ, EQ and SQ are tools to predict the individual’s abilities, qualities and potentialities.

The IQ theory is based on left brain of human being. It emphasized mathematical computation, logic and technical formulations. EQ theory made both the hemispheres of brain its basis. Not only left brain qualities of computation and calculation but also the right brain qualities of taste, aesthetics, compassion and empathy determine the probability of success of an individual. SQ is the third value in a set of three measurements. This is not limited to an individual’s brain area only.

Practice of concentration to meditate at the optic chiasma and pineal gland leads to experiencing ecstasy, bliss, spiritual elevation and ultimately self-realisation.

Wilhelm Stern had given the formula for Intelligence Quotient (IQ). Daniel Goleman described the importance of Emotional Quotient(EQ). Tony Buzan coined the term Spiritual Intelligence for the first time. Zohar and Marshall proposed Spiritual Intelligence as the “Ultimate Intelligence”.

Deepak Chopra described SQ as the ratio of Deed(D) and Ego(E).

I have also attempted to describe EQ as the product of IQ and wisdom(W) and SQ as the ratio of parasympathetic dominance(PSD) and sympathetic dominance(SD). Both PSD and SD are physiological parameters and can be measured experimentally to put their values in the formula for SQ.

SQ leverages both IQ and EQ.