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Sunday, May 24, 2009

Brahma Kumaris talk by Sister Shivani Verna



22 April 2009
This are my notes of the talk by Sister Shivani Verna from the Brahma Kumaris in Singapore. They are written as in the first person for easy reading, but it is not an ad verbatim recording of what Sister Shivani spoke of during the seminar.
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Clean the slate. Freshen the mind.
Be in the present. Delete what is not needed for now.
What is important now?
What we share is our way to transformation.
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* One minute silence *
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I am a peaceful soul. 
Here to find if problems be solved.
I am a powerful being. Do you feel it? How do I become a powerful being?
Who am I?
I am a mother.
I am an MNC professional.
I am...
In the role you play, you are powerful.
But as a being, you are powerful.
Do you know what is it to be a 'being'?
Why is it important to know who am I?
The deepest meaning - 'I' is:
Self - confidence?
Self - motivation?
Self - esteem?
Self - respect?
Self - centred?
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So many words. I know what they are?
These are words we use everyday, and yet we are still not clear of what they are.
Self-confidence is confidence in what I do. 
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Self-respect - not sure what it is. Is it ego?
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It is the word 'self' that is not clear.
'I' - What do you see when you hear the word 'I'?
Do we think of a picture of ourselves?
I am a human-being. If we relate that to the body and what we do, then we have become 'human-doing' (not 'human-being').
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(For instance) How would it be if I am this costume? (pointing to the white sari she wears).
If the costume is dirty, does it mean that 'I' am dirty?
(Clearly) There is a being underneath the costume.
So when people criticise, don't take it so personally.
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When a person dies, who dies?
The body dies. Take a distance from the death.
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One wrong idea (of identifying with the body) in the consciousness and one live a life of Fear.
So, when someone say something about what I am doing, I feel hurt. I get disturbed, as I always want to be perfect. But who got disturbed? If I am disturbed, that means I look at 'me' as the doing part. If I remain stable, I remain perfect.
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How about the positive comments about what we do?
Do we do something to feel good?
Job satisfaction - does it mean to do something to feel good.
We should feel good first, then do something. Otherwise, we are looking at energy from outside to inside. That is, 'I do this, I feel happy', or 'I buy this, I feel happy'.
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Energy is flowing from 'inside' out, because the creator is the being.
Can this flower give me happiness?
It can only give what it has. If we seek from outside, we become dependent. How about people? Can people give me happiness? Can we suck happiness out of people? This leads to 'I want'.
They will radiate only what you think you 'have not' and what 'you want'. 
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(So) You didn't buy me a gift for my birthday meant you don't love me(?)
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I am also a walking radiator of energy. When you are happy, you radiate the energy to another person. 
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So from where do I get my happiness?
'I am a happy being'.
The glass is already full. Make sure it doesn't spill.
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Homework: To cross 24 hours without getting disturbed with any situation. 
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Where does happiness fit in your priority list? How many people get happiness from their salaries? If you do, be careful because salaries do fluctuate. For some people, their self-esteem comes from their salary - the attachment to the figure (salary). 
Is this how I feel about myself? 
How can I face society now? 
How will people treat me now?
Will the praises stop?
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What I say about you, how I see you, how I feel today, forms the filter of my feelings when I am seeing you. 
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Can I say something nice?
Is the food good?
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Do not take each one to what they are saying about you. Know about yourself and not get affected by what others say. This is going to be more so when more people are in pain. Others talk about me and I am going around justifying that it doesn't work. Let people think what they want. Truth will automatically reveal itself. 
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Remain stable. It doesn't mean no response, but a stable response. When I am stable, I have the power to change. When you are in pain, you can't change. Don't handle people. Handling one person is enough. That one person is yourself.
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Questions from the audience:
Q: I see two persons drowning - my wife and my mother, which one should I save?
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Reply: I can do anything to anyone when I am not sucked into something. You have a belief that you have to save one. (Typically, in a domestic problem) Let them sort out their own problems. Get both the mother and the wife to sit together to talk. If they are not sitting together, it doesn't get solved. Only speak the truth when both sides are present.
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Note that, "My perspective to reveal" is different from "My perspective to show you are wrong". 
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After revealing your perspective, let the other person respond. Don't interfere with his journey. We are only in-charged of our own journey. It is like the dance you watch before this. If each of the dancer is going to worry about the steps of the other dancers, she'll not be able to dance her own steps. So don't worry about the other person. We are often writing the other person's script, then while doing so, my scene has passed.
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Keep an open mind during the talk. No verdict before the talk, otherwise you won't be listening.
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Why am I working?
To survive?
To experience happiness?
Try giving happiness to others without feeling happy. Take 1 mintue to heal myself, then work. Take care of yourself, the rest takes care of itself. I'll take care of one person. I experience it on the way out (by giving).
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The seminar ended here.
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On the way out, each of us get a beautifully folded message and an Indian sweet (cookie).
It looks like this:
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When the folds open up, it says:

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48 comments:

Anonymous said...

Sister Shivani is being discussed in an interesting way here:

http://www.brahmakumaris.info/forum/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=2315&p=31561#p31561

jupilier said...

Dear Anonymous

I am more interested in the song than the singer. Try not to confuse the singer with the song. It is the song we are interested in that hopefully makes us understand more about ourselves.

Also, do note that this post is written in first-person for the purpose of clarity and not an ad-verbatim recording of what Sister Shivani said, so it is futile taking quotes from it, especially if they are taken out of context.

radhika said...

hello sister i m rinku from karnal haryana. i m 28 years old man. i m very mentally disturbance man. i m very immotional and deepression man. some day i m feeling good, but after some day my thought are havy on my mind. help me, wait for respone.
my email id is -
rinkoo_31@yahoo.co.in

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NEHA said...

om shanti, di
m baba's adopted soul. i cud say des ver d heart touchng lins... bt actualy ii touchd m(atma). i'l do dat H.W. dat u askd...

NEHA said...

om shanti, di
m baba's adopted soul. i cud say des ver d heart touchng lins... bt actualy ii touchd m(atma). i'l do dat H.W. dat u askd...

radhika said...

hello i m rinku
actully my life is full with sadness and depression, past 3 years is very bad of my life and this will be countnuessly, what i will be di, i don't know, i need help of other, help me

Anonymous said...

Hare Krishna!!!

Di me apse kai baar mil chuka hu.....
muje apki kai baate acchi lagti hai..kuch me apse janna chata hu....

Phale Prakrati ayi ya TIME aya , ya Phir vo Dherya jisne dono ko prakrati ko aur time ko dono ko bandh kar rakha ..ya koi aur chij bhi ho sakti hai jo en tino ko bandh kar chal rhi ho....


Hare Krishna!!!!
381bhakti@gmail.com

anamika said...

hello sister shivani,
i am listening you since long (one to two yrs.)and it helps me a lot in understanding myself and surrounding ppl..smtime questions arises in mind i get answers....one question arise today in my mind i am not getting answer can you pl. help me in getting the answer......IF SOME ONE WHO IS VERY CLOSER ONE FOR EXAMPLE OUR OWN CHILDREN OR HUSBAND DOESN'T LIKE US THEY REACT VERY HARD WHEN WE INTERECT EACH OTHER, I LIVE STABLE AND BEHAVE COOLLY WITH THEM ......I AM WAITING EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE SMTIME ,MY PAST KARMA OF ANGER AND LACK OF KNOWLEDGE ABT OURSELVES ARE COMING IN FRONT OF ME , BUT SOME TIME I FEEL CRYING IN FRONT OF GOD I FEEL, GOD ,MIGHTY'S SUPPORT IS WITH ME ALWAYS. MY QUESTION ONLY IS THAT AM I DOING RIGHT OR WHY I CRY OR SLOWLY AM I NOT GETTING HARD MY EMOTIONS ARE GETTING HARDER SM CONFUSEN ......

Bharti said...

hai didi,aap best ho,u know jab bhi mein aapko dekhte aur sunti hoon,ifeel 99.9%positive no negative thought at all.when ever i am in any situation,that i feel is difficult, i remember u and i receive all the solutions to my questions.it feels fantastic being with u.i and my whole family loves u,i also want to be stable always,but many a times,i feel so demoralized may be because at that time i forget my real identity.i wish i could meet you personally some day,but at the same time i know u r always with me in my thoughts.love u god bless.om shanti.

MALTI said...

om s didi,
m feelin very tense actually yes or no too. m B.K.renu.main job karna chahti hun as a teacher bt baba kehten haitym is not left mujhe B.K banne main koi barrier nahin hai par main job karte baba ki sewa karna chahti hun baba naukri ki taukri uthane ko mana karte hai. i want 2 help my mother by doin job.m not interested in marriage n all that.kya aisi sewa kanyaon ki baba ko kabul nahin hogi?kya meri mother n ishwariya sewa ke liye sahi nahn hogi hamari didi kehti hai..... mujhe plz gyan ke tarike se shi decision bataiye... main tan. man n dhan teeno se sewa karna chahti hun main baba ko kabhi bhi khona chahti hun.m feelin scared kahin baba ne mera sath nahin diya to...... main kafi salon se is ishwariya parivar main hun..main B.ED n M.A. kar rahi hun..... plz Shivani didi tell me wat to do or not to do? wat will b the good 4 me? mujhe gyan se n baba se poochkar hi answer dijiyega plz.....................OM SHANTI....my email id z renumalti@gmail.co

MALTI said...

om s didi,
m feelin very tense actually yes or no too. m B.K.renu.main job karna chahti hun as a teacher bt baba kehten haitym is not left mujhe B.K banne main koi barrier nahin hai par main job karte baba ki sewa karna chahti hun baba naukri ki taukri uthane ko mana karte hai. i want 2 help my mother by doin job.m not interested in marriage n all that.kya aisi sewa kanyaon ki baba ko kabul nahin hogi?kya mere job se meri mother n ishwariya sewa mein sehyog acha nahn hoga aisa hamari didi kehti hai..... mujhe plz gyan ke tarike se shi decision bataiye... main tan. man n dhan teeno se sewa karna chahti hun main baba ko kabhi bhi khona nahin chahti hun.m feelin scared kahin baba ne mera sath nahin diya to...... main kafi salon se is ishwariya parivar main hun..main B.ED n M.A. kar rahi hun..... plz Shivani didi tell me wat to do or not to do? wat will b the good 4 me? mujhe gyan se n baba se poochkar hi answer dijiyega plz.....................OM SHANTI....my email id z renumalti@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

hi shivani di m vaishali 27 years old, have seen ur programme twice , m going through a very bad phase of life , i need your help , i have become mentally sick , feel like leaving dis world , help me out pls my id is vaishali213@yahoo.co.in

Innocent Warrior said...

Thanks a lot for article...this really helped me a lot.

jupilier said...

Glad you like the post. Thank you for visiting Vacuum State.

nishi said...

OM SHANTI
sister shivani, mera naam nisha hai, mai 21 saal ki hu, mai panipat(haryana)se hu. maine apka programme kai baar TV par dekha hai or jab bhi apko sunti hu i feel so wonderful or sab samajh me bhi aata hai,jo kuch bhi aap btate hai wo sab kuch hmari life me hota hai. hum life me itne busy ho jate hai k khud ko time hi nahi de paate. maine kabhi meditate nahi kiya and i dont know how to meditate. mai khud ko pehchanna chahti hu but i need your guidence please guide me that what should i do.i will wait for your response.. OM SHANTI
my email address is:
nishisethi189@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

om shanti didi..
i am nikita.
i jst wanna talk 2 u...didi wen i was in 6 stndard tbse gyan mein chal rhe hu..nw i m dong job...i belong to rewari bt right nw m living in gurgaon.. di i really wanna meet u...
nikitay16@gmail.com
i m waitng 4 ur respons ..

Anonymous said...

hello sister shivani im going throug a lot of confusions in my life im 25years old n i hav done m.sc(physics),b.ed i hav very much caring family my parents,both brothers lov me very much im sufferring from ulcerativ colitis for last 2 years my family sports me very much im very much ambtious grl but the problem is im not satisfied with my life i feel very much lucky that god has gifted me with a so much caring family im in luv n ifeel lucky about him also we don't meet n talk to each other as marrige is not possible in our case but mently i could not detech myself from him i tried so maney tims in last 6 years i don't want to marry any other person as i feel icould not be dedicated to that relaton n i relly don't want liv a fake life at all for my parents hapines i can do that n im sure ican do anythig for them but im confused w'll it be rt decison i feel w'll not do justice for myself n my dedication towards my luv i watch ur prog.daily it bgiv me strength to move forward but even then i find myself completely helpless iknow u n only can show me the rt. path plz help me didi
om shanti
my email mmtkhatri@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

sister shivani om shanti
you have changed many peoples lives.
i always watch you on you tube. i feel like i gained a lot from you.
could u please write a book in English for students, how to be happy in their life, positive thinking, karma,and self awareness.
i used to think about my past and never let it go. After listening your talks i feel very light.

Anonymous said...

hello sister. iam a big fan of yours. whenever i saw your program i feel relaxed but next day again i feel angry,irritated from the world.no desire to live in these world.u have said that we should do meditation for peace but when i do my leg start paining or back pain or if iam doing intrestingly somebody calls me and my meditation get disturb.i want to say sister that iam 19 year old but from past years iam not doing well in my studies but now i am really intrested in study but whenever i focus on study i think that oh what people will feel they will be saying jaroor chitting karke first aaye hogee please tell me how i should be well mentally prepared

Bharti said...

Hello di,hope you are fine.just wanted to thank you.now i always remain stable, no tention at all,but there are always some people who remind you of your past and tend to make you feel low,even if i dont loose my stability,i think they create a negative environment around me and i go back in my past.what should i do in this situation specially when in am surrounded by my own family members who means a lot to me?

anamika said...

no more mails i want from this site

jupilier said...

Anamika
We have not sent you any mail.

Anonymous said...

om shanti ,

I listen to your daily show in aastha channel i am having shivering of hands problem &
it bring fear when i want to complete any action or think abt future plan

kailash said...

hi,
didi mera naam kailash hai, mujhe aap ko dekh kar aur aap ki batain sun kar feel good hota hai(postive energy)flow hoti hai, meri prob hai ki main kabhi-kabhi negative soch ne lagta hu, mujhe apne sache mann se iswar ki sewa karni hai. didi please mujhe batao ki main kya karu ki mera mann iswar ko feel kare, mujhe daily base pe kya karna chahiye. main umeed karta hu ki main kabhi aap se milunga. didi mujhe reply kijiye plz mera e mail id hai : knoutiyal@gmail.com

Rajni said...

Om Shanti Om Di ,

You have wonderful knowledge , whenever i listen your program , feel so relax , easy to map myself with the situation . One thing i would like to ask , how can i forget the comments which i dont like from others ,even though i know i cant control their thoughts and trying to forget at my level but still remains at back of my mind .Kindly help .

Regards
Rajni
rajnirathaur@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

hi shivani didi.myself archana 26 yrs old architect from punjab.
i feel good by seeing u on aastha tv.but when i called u someone othr replied.can we talk.or i can ask my problems and u pls reply.my id is archanajoshi12@rediffmail.com

BK Lakshmi said...

SHIV BABA is the teacher for all brahmakumaris.Souls would benefit more on listening to His speech.I hope u all would visit the nearest brahmakumaris centre and learn meditation.many times we know what to do but we dont have the power to do it. By connecting with GOD we will find the strength to face negative situations and act accurately. OM SHANTI.

sharan said...

Hi,

i am sharan choudhari from karnataka.very energetic program.Through this program i would like to know that,what is soul,is it energy which flows from one part to the another or is it a chemical which transforms to one solid state to the another.because i dont feel thier is a death.because dead deer will not become energetic food for lion.even lion is also having soulwithin.plz clarify my confusion. Thankyou.

AISHWARYA said...

hi i m vibha. mai kafi dino se bahut pareshan hu or mere chalte mere family member v pareshan rahte hai mujhe kya karna chahiye

nidhi said...

HI DIDI I REALLY LOVE LISTENING WHAT U CONVEY TO US. I HV A FRIEND OF MINE HE IS FULL OF ANGER I WANT U TO CONVEY A MSG THAT HOW HE CANCONTROL HIS ANGER.


REPLY ME ON NIDHISW@GMAIL.COM

Anonymous said...

i have learnt from shivani that i am the creator of my destiny.i should give happiness to myself first and the give others happiness.the meditation helps me to create positive thoughts.

Anonymous said...

Om shanti

mayur said...

hello...didi...I m Goswami mayurgiri.21 year young...From himmatnagar,gujarat...I m regularly watch your programme on astha tv.I have two question......
1. Have u seen or feel god ??
2. I am not good person...there is lot's of weakness in me, so Can I see shiv baba in this life..??
Didi Plezzz reply....my email ID is....... mayurgoswami39@yahoo.in

neetu said...

Hello didi
I am very much attached with some people in my life...i dont want to let them go out of my entire life. But how can i get my same importance in their life?????

Angelina said...

Good evening Sister Shivani :) this is myself angelina posting u a comment regarding about my work life only. I had joined my work on 3rd October now my one month is almost going to be over. Since the day i have joines my work sister m somehw nt happy within myself. Even when i come home i think bout work only i feel relaxed no tension bt the scene regarding my work will still be there in my mind. When i ask work nd when someone tells me dat i have to do this work i cant understand as to what they say nd my mind is fully disturbed. It has never happened to me like dis before jus the day when i joined my work from dat time onwards i have started to feel lik dis sister. Nd people dn talk to me coz only m d junior rest of them r my seniors. M actually a happy person nd henceforth also give advices to others bt dat happiness has somehw gone recently at the time of joining work. What do i do Sister please give me a suggestion as to what to do? thank u :)

Guneet said...

om shanti didi....
main kuch saal pehle osrc manesar ayi thi ek competition k liye...ARSSDC k liye. tab se ab tak life mein har low moment pe main aapke diye hue vo bookmarks k quotes read kr k positive feel krti thi
but last kuch months se nothings working... m having some issues wid a frnd n there seems to be no end to it.m in the prefinal year of my engineering n my grades are suffering now.we were such nice frnds n suddenly we just stoipped talking...no solid base for this frndship fallout. i miss her n all my frnds i lost due to dat fallout in frndship. i feel utterly lonely at home and at college, i feel miserable n i seek ur advice. even regular visits to some place of worship provide only teporary relief. plz help. thanx. om shanti.

e mail id- gunchawla212@gmail.com

Guneet said...

om shanti didi....
main kuch saal pehle osrc manesar ayi thi ek competition k liye...ARSSDC k liye. tab se ab tak life mein har low moment pe main aapke diye hue vo bookmarks k quotes read kr k positive feel krti thi
but last kuch months se nothings working... m having some issues wid a frnd n there seems to be no end to it.m in the prefinal year of my engineering n my grades are suffering now.we were such nice frnds n suddenly we just stoipped talking...no solid base for this frndship fallout. i miss her n all my frnds i lost due to dat fallout in frndship. i feel utterly lonely at home and at college, i feel miserable n i seek ur advice. even regular visits to some place of worship provide only teporary relief. plz help. thanx. om shanti.

e mail id- gunchawla212@gmail.com

vijanta said...

hi sister shivani iam vijanta from krachi'PAKISTAN..you are one of my favorite personality iwant to discuss many things with yoh..om shanti.........

Anonymous said...

hello di earlier i didn"t know about u but one day i switched on the tv and went through the various programs but one program that was brahma kumaris infuenced me very much. really t was just a program that can convert a man into pure soul. i think u r d great example of the great soul

Sarada Dey said...

OM SHANTI!!!!!!!
I'M 18 YRS OLD. MY NAME IS SHRABONI DEY AN ENGINEERING STUDENT. I USE TO WATCH UR BELOVED SHOW AS POSSIBLE EVERYDAY. I JUST LOVES IT VERY MUCH.......
AND I WHOLE-HEARTEDLY WANT TO BE A PART OF UR SHOW.
PLEASE HELP ME......

waheguru said...

Dear Sister, I want to talk only with shivani didi. If you are shivani
didi, so please please give me your personal id or official personal id i
just talking with you about my life. i am suffering very critical movement
its has vikari happened, so didi help me. my id is tarvdrsk@gmail.com

nitya said...

Dear all,I am alos feeling the same as u all are feeling but there is a great saying by a Hitler:-

Dedicated to all victims of love.....
War is better than the love because in a War either u die or u live but in love neither u die nor u love

jupilier said...

In love but not love? That's a contradiction isn't it?

Anonymous said...

Hii....m Sudha 19yrs old! M watching Awakening since 2yrs, n my life has been changed a lot! Bt nw some complications has been arrived in my life,,plzz..Shivani di, do help me! I'll wait for ur reply! Om shanti ID-pathak.sudha6662@ovi.com

kasturi said...

BK Shivani didi,I am Kasturi a student of class 12.I am in a peculiar problem.I cannot concentrate in my studies more likely i am hating studies.All people blame me and once I decided to suisite but after hearing your lecture at awekening with BKs I decided not to suisite.My exam is near and I am too depressed please help me by providing me a solution to the problem and I want your personal Email id or contact no
plse help me

kasturi said...

BK Shivani didi,I am Kasturi a student of class 12.I am in a peculiar problem.I cannot concentrate in my studies morelikely i am hating studies.All people blame me and once I decided to suisite but after hearing your lecture at awekening with BKs I decided not to suisite.My exam is near and I am too depressed please help me by providing me a solution to the problem and I want your personal Email id
plse help me and my email id ->kasturi.gupta2011@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Helo mam...om shantii
I wanna talk wit u mam, plzzz i request u....my facebook id is aayushibaheti93@gmail.com
Plzz...