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Friday, March 07, 2014

Focus



Thoughts become things. What you think manifests. It all starts with  a thought. This is the Law of Attraction.

But why didn't some of your thoughts come true?

To be more exact, only strong thoughts that you truly believe in can manifest. Everyday we have thousands of thoughts in our mind every minute competing to manifest . So only the strongest manifest. The weak ones fade away.

However, your thoughts can only be strong if you believe in them.

For instance, if you shout aloud every morning that you are a billionaire hoping that you will become one on mere affirmation, you  are unlikely to succeed. Fact is that you know how much you have in your bank account. In fact, effectively you are telling yourself, "Who are you kidding?..." So, instead of a positive affirmation to move towards your goal, you have helped yourself moved away from your goal unwittingly.

A more workable affirmation can be something like, "Ï have more than enough money to spend everyday!" This will work whether you have a million dollars left in the bank at the end of each day or just a few dollars. It is something you can believe wholeheartedly without feeling like a rotten liar. Particularly if you had realised that you are persistently lying to yourself.

Once you believe in your thoughts, you will have to be able to focus on your thoughts. Focus will add energy to your thoughts so that they will become forms. Monkey minds that jump around from one frivolous thought to another will not succeed. Focus is probably the hardest part.

Meditation increases focus and cuts out clutter. There are different meditation techniques available. Try out several techniques and choose one most suitable for yourself.  For instance, if you are physically hyperactive, you may like to try walking meditation. If you are musically inclined, listen to classical music but follow the sound of one instrument. If you are sensitive to vibrations, try chakra meditation. Some techniques focus on the photo of a guru, some the tip of a candle flame,...etc. Whichever method, they all teach you to focus.

I learned a technique recently that focuses on a humble black dot on a white surface. I find it more effective than using the other objects, as it is something so simple and mundane that it is easy to move your eye away if you are not focusing

A black dot is more mundane than the beautiful tip of a candle flame and more neutral than the face of a guru. There is nothing interesting about the black dot other than using it as a focusing exercise. Using a beautiful or profound object on the other hand distracts you, but fool you into believing that you are focusing well.

Practise focusing. For unless you can focus, you cannot have strong thoughts and therefore they will not manifest. Instead, other thoughts that are relatively stronger will manifest. And they can be any other lingering thoughts that you are not aware of.

The dangerous part is that we are mostly unaware of what  we are thinking of, until it is too late. In other words, it is difficult to track the mind with the mind itself. So harbour healthy thoughts. Allow yourself to react to situations and even be angry about them, as being positive does not mean that you should become blind to negative things around you. Observe, but not judge.  But after allowing yourself the spontaneous emotions, tell yourself not to allow those unwanted  thoughts to fester.

Set yourself some thought checkpoints and motivations. Tell yourself that you don't want to have ugly thoughts because it will give you an ugly face. Ultimately, it feels better to be positive than negative and it is easier to love than to hate. Positive thoughts energise. Negative thoughts wear you out. When you are tired, you also run the risk of poor judgment and slipping down the slippery slope into  calamities. So have enough rest and sleep too. They are essential ingredients to success.

I find acting and role playing an effective method for self realisation. As it allows me to go through the emotions and results of a scene sincerely.

If acting is  too hard, you may like use the state of your bedroom or house as a measurement of how clear or cluttered your mind is, as what is outside is inside, and vice versa. Clear the clutter outside and the inside too clears. This is an easy checkpoint.

Some people go into hypnosis to understand their subconscious thoughts. I simply record my dreams when I wake up in a diary. I find it very useful to check my thoughts and to  make the necessary corrections.

Minimise the use of technology where possible, particularly the use of smartphones. They are one major cause of monkey minds in today's world.

All the people that I have met that are successful are those who are able to focus on their thoughts that they truly believe in. None of them have monkey minds.

So why are gurus only teaching you the Law of Attraction skin deep? I suspect that they may not know some of the finer points which I have discovered the painful and hard way. Most gurus are money motivated. They are mostly selling generalised motherhood statements. Some boast of very successful students out of their large cohorts. By the law of big numbers, if you put enough people there, some will come out successful accidentally.

What we want is a method that works consistently. I have discovered that it is mostly to do with the ability to focus. If you can focus well, everything will fall in place smoothly. If they are not falling in place smoothly, that means that you are not focusing well enough.

IMPORTANT: Do not confuse being 'focused' with being 'stubborn and attached'. They are mutually exclusive.

NOTE: I am not trying to sell you any motivation seminars or magic crystals, but just sharing something I have discovered recently and have found them to yield the results I want. In fact,  you are likely to  have already known of what I have shared, except that may be you have not put them together clear enough such that your mental gears engage.



Friday, April 03, 2009

In Sickness and In Health 15a - Stormy Weather

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Incidentally, just got this from my Daily Contemplation email subscription:
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Success isn't measured by money or power or social rank. Success is measured by your discipline and inner peace.

-- Mike Ditka
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Thursday, April 10, 2008

Spheres of Success


There is this group called "Spheres of Success" started by two of my friends. They gather once a month for one hour to discuss about successes they have achieved. Any success no matter how big or small, involving groups of people or just themselves. No negative thinking or events are allowed to be mentioned, unless they are used to describe their journey to their sucesses. I have joined their meetings and have found them very enlightening and energising.
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This is their fifth meeting and already two other groups have formed to meet on different days of the month and different locations.
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Come and join us. We meet every second Tuesday of the month at 5A Mayo Street, Singapore. You can start one too. You will find it very encouraging.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Bucky Group 3 - What is Success?

The following are emails between my friend Joo Hock and myself, about 'success'.



Joo Hock

I have read about Warren Buffet's lifestyle before, but thanks for reminding me that most of us have been conditioned about what "success" is. Subconsciously, I am going through this de-programming. It's work-in-progress.

Guru Paranjothi Subramaniam, from the Self Awareness Centre defines it as:
"Success is a moment-by-moment realisation of worthwhile chosen goals so as to have continued happiness."

Also, can I include this email in my blog?

Michael

-------Original Message-------

From:
Joo Hock
Date: 6/25/2007 8:59:23 AM
To:
undisclosed-recipients:,
Subject: Fwd: Warren Buffet


Dear Fellow Fullerenes,

This was sent to me from my customer and friend, Dale. Movie star Richard Gere looks like him. Heh Heh.........He has company is called "Brainhook". Creative and fun guy.

Felt this might be quite interesting for you to know......

Warren Buffet is considered one of the world's most "successful" guys, if we equate money with success. (which truly it is NOT.) Yet, we've been conditioned to think so.

Anyway, it feels like Warren Buffet is living really a simple life, just like you and I.

Which mean you are already successful.

However, there's lot's of programming out there in the media, which make you feel that you are not successful and happy until you have this and that, and that.....and that.

I shared about this in my blog......

Anyway read on.........about Warren Buffet...


Cheers
JooHock
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Dale Yost
Date: Jun 25, 2007 2:19 AM
Subject: Warren Buffet
To: Choo Siang Lee

There was a one-hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet— the world's second-richest man— who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life:

  1. He bought his first share of stock at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late!
  2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers.
  3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, Nebraska that he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence.
  4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him.
  5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world's largest private jet company.
  6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies.
    He writes only one letter each year to the CEOs of these companies, giving them goals for the year. He never holds meetings or calls them on a regular basis.
    He has given his CEOs only two rules. Rule number 1: Do not lose any of your shareholder's money. Rule number 2: Do not forget rule number 1.
  7. He does not socialize with the high society crowd. His pastime after he gets home is to make himself some popcorn and watch television.
  8. Bill Gates, the world's richest man, met him for the first time only 5 years ago. Gates did not think he had anything in common with Warren Buffet, so he had scheduled his meeting for only a half hour. But when Gates met him, the meeting lasted for ten hours and Bill Gates became a devotee of Warren Buffet.
  9. Warren Buffet does not carry a cell phone nor does he have a computer on his desk.

His advice to young people: "Stay away from credit cards and invest in yourself…and remember:

  • Money doesn't create man but it is man who created money.
  • Live your life as simple as you are.
  • Don't do what others say, just listen to them— but then do what you feel is right.
  • Don't go for brand names; just wear the things in which you feel comfortable.
  • Don't waste your money on unnecessary things; just spend on those who are really in need.
  • After all, it's your life— why give chances to others to rule our lives?"

-- Buckyfully yours

Joohock

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